Category: Mindset

Sometimes, in our quest to get ahead in life, we forget to actually live it. From deadlines to meet to presentations to prepare for, life is quite busy.

However, you need to let go of things and relax. In your fast-paced world, you have got to learn to go with the flow.     (more…)

Posted in Mindset on May 17, 2017.

One of the most affectionate of human expressions, smiling, is a symbol of joy, happiness, pleasure, amusement and all things good in life.

Here are some of the most amazing benefits of this most precious of human gestures: (more…)

Posted in Mindset on May 15, 2017.

By Kim Fedele, Scott’s Fiancée


“If it had teeth it would bite” was a quote that my mom would often tell me after I frantically searched for something I couldn’t find. Mom always stepped in and usually found whatever it was in less than a minute. So the thing that seemed to derail me was right in front of me the whole time. What would bother me the most, aside from her finding the item instantly, was why couldn’t I find it myself? Were her eyes different than mine, as if mothers develop this razor-sharp sonar because they are forever searching for lost toys, favorite socks, jewelry or a snuggle blanket for their panicked kids? Whatever the case may be, I was always happy to get back the missing item — you know, the thing that, at the time, seemed like the most important thing in the world. Or was I?

As a mom myself with three kids — two in college, one in high school — I’ve now become the Retriever of Lost Items. And, just like my own mother, I find these treasures rapidly and in the same fashion. Yes, I have found myself repeating Mom’s mantra: “If it had teeth it would bite.”

What I have learned over the years is that finding those lost items, which in many instances are right under our noses, applies to most things in life — physical objects, an emotion, an idea or a VISION. Sometimes the things in life that we have been searching years for are right in front of us. But why don’t we see them? If we just took the time to really understand what it is we are looking for or fighting for, we’d often discover the answers right in front of us.

1. Stop, breathe, clear your head.
2. Know what you are looking for or fighting for.
3. Decide whether or not the search or cause is truly worth your time and energy.
4. If so, go all in, not half-way.
5. Stay focused.
6. Realize that some things may no longer bear the packaging you put them in, literally and metaphorically.
7. Be fully prepared to look for or fight for an object, an idea, an emotion or your Vision.

My fiancé was rifling through a drawer the other day for a rubber band. He pictured it in his mind, and that mental image is what he fixated on as he tore that drawer apart. What he was searching for wasn’t there, however. Well, actually, there WAS a rubber band in that drawer, which I found for him immediately. A blue one, not the traditional tan-colored one he had been been expecting to see. In that moment, his eyes weren’t programmed for such a variation, his mind not open to possibility. I did refrain from saying, “If it had teeth it would bite.”

We all experience similar, frustrating derailments in our everyday lives. You may be looking for something larger and more profound than a rubber band, such as a new job, artistic expression, stronger relationships or more enriching personal goals, but the approach remains the same. It reinforces the importance of having a clear VISION (knowing what you’re looking for), MINDSET (readjusting your attitude) and GRIT (searching with conviction).

Hope is a powerful thing.

It is the expectation of good things to come. Even a mere glimmer of hope can keep one going through the darkest of times.

Life has the tendency to throw you many a curveball. There can be many devastating circumstances you may have to live through.

It is hope that gets you through these times. It helps you persevere and keeps you going. (more…)

Posted in Mindset on April 10, 2017.

You don’t need a degree in philosophy to discover the true meaning of life. You don’t need to learn Chinese to form a deep connection with a person from China.

You don’t have to live in poverty to hear the plight of the marginalized. And you don’t need to believe in magic to save yourself from the mouth of danger. Everything you will ever know about yourself, about life, about the world and the life that inhabits it you’ll learn by simply being open to the universe and the lessons it has to teach. (more…)

Posted in Mindset on March 9, 2017.